No wonder.

I don’t get it. Conflict is only healthy if it’s not the leader managing it. As leaders (meaning everyone on a public platform), we have to do more than say, “you know I’m a person who just doesn’t like conflict”.

Leadership is about longevity, selflessness, meeting goals, and trying to move up and on together. By “examine expectations”, it almost places it on the leader’s shoulders to keep everyone happy.

I guess I place it on each person’s shoulders, too…to make sure they are evaluating personal goals and taking them to God and leaders sensitively.

I appreciate leaders like this…I just think we could wear you out babysitting us.

Surely we can somewhat get beyond dealing with leaders who need that kind of babysitting? I have used my leader to go over how I’m dealing with a relational problem, and asked for feedback. It’s healthy. Many times he says, “I think he’s feeling _______” or “You are doing the right thing”, or he may just be more sensitive.

He never blames…always builds people up and doesn’t make us feel like what we are doing is impossible. Artists are moody. Often, it’s swimming mood tides with people together and “not letting them” go until things settle for them again…and they often do without a huge hash out.

I used to be more big on the “lets just hash this out” talks, but sometimes those validate moods and expectations that don’t really need to be validated, but endured.

A tender balance…one I’m glad leaders like you are set on finding!

Great thoughts here. Keep on!